Are you a mom who feels invisible? Like no one notices you exist? It’s as if your kids are just happy that you are there to make them breakfast, lunch and dinner – not to mention snacks in between – but never really noticing how that food got on their plate. Like a magical fairy just dropped it out of the sky.Are you a mom who feels invisible? Like no one notices you exist? Click To Tweet
I totally understand. As a mom, many times, I’ve felt invisible and I’ll bet you have too.
No One Noticed My Shoes
My daughter understands. She had a really rough day at school one day, not too long ago. When I picked her up from school she was not being her normal, sweet, bubbly self. I figured she was just tired because we had just had a very busy weekend. After a full afternoon of her snapping and being short with both her brothers, she finally dissolved into tears and said she was so sad because no one at school noticed her new shoes.
But, then I remembered being a young girl too…
We had a nice talk about how it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks and it only matters what God thinks. We also talked about how she can’t let something like shoes put her in a bad mood.
I also told her that her attitude is her choice, and she was choosing to let the fact that no one oooohhhed and aaaahhhed over her shoes to dictate how she treated others. She smiled when I told her that I liked her shoes.
Am I Invisible?
But isn’t that true of us? You want someone to notice your shoes. And your new outfit. Or that you just cleaned your bathroom really well. Or that you folded five loads of laundry in one day.
Maybe you just want someone to notice all the effort it takes to use coupons to save money for a simple lunch of chicken nuggets and Cheetos. Or see that you single-handedly answered a work phone call, while changing a poopy diaper on a squirmy toddler who really should be using the potty.
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We All Want To Be Noticed
I’m 100% guilty of this. I like to be noticed. I want someone to say “good job.” To acknowledge just how hard it is to be a mom and tell you are rocking your “mom job”. Just anyone to notice all that you do so you aren’t a mom who feels invisible.
Let’s be honest, being a stay-at-home-mom, you very rarely hear from your 3 year old that you just did a really good job mopping your kitchen floor. Often when no one notices all that we do, we feel unloved and unappreciated.As mom, often when no one notices all that we do, we feel unloved and unappreciated. Click To Tweet
Then we are guilty of seeking approval from a cup that won’t ever be filled. We are seeking worth from men, who are just as unworthy as we are. Instead, we should be seeking worth and approval from the Lord who gives it willingly.
God Has A Plan
He has a plan for your life. You are unique to Him and your purpose is to serve Him using all the talents He gave you with a sense of JOY. That’s the key – Joy. Find joy in all the small tasks you are blessed to have to do each day for your kids and family. The joy is there, you just have to look for it.
“God’s kingdom isn’t a matter of what you put in your stomach, for goodness’ sake. It’s what God does with your life as he sets it right, puts it together, and completes it with joy. Your task is to single-mindedly serve Christ. Do that and you’ll kill two birds with one stone: pleasing the God above you and proving your worth to the people around you.” — Romans 14:17 (The Message)
So when no one notices your shoes, and you are mom who feels invisible – it’s no big deal – your worth is not found in your shoes, it’s found in the Lord. He loves you more than you will ever grasp and longs to fill your cup everyday with JOY!
P.S. If you ever have any questions about whom the Lord is and what He means to me or can mean to you, please ask. I’d be more than happy to share more about the Lord of my life.
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